I’m going through some tough stuff and I was taught by my sponsor, who has a sponsor, to never keep stuff bottled up. I’m dealing with a lot of anger, and just like any good alcoholic, I’m finding it hard to handle.

I feel like I’ve been betrayed by some of the members in this group and it pisses me off. My girlfriend Karen told me that she overheard people talking about her 5th step at Starbucks last night. I shared some of this with the group last week but I thought that what was said here stayed here, I guess not.

She is all upset and has not returned my calls. I think she fired me as a sponsor and as a boyfriend. She went off on me for talking about her 5th step, not letting her go to meetings by herself, telling her to stop talking to the women in the program, and keeping her from her family. She told me that everyone is telling her what an asshole I am and that I don’t know what I’m talking about.

The problem is that she just doesn’t get the program yet and I think she’s headed for a relapse. I told her that I was worried for her and that I was going to pray for her but she told me to screw off, but with the F word – not screw off but Fuck off.